In this segment of Give’m Health, Bonnie Hart, RN at the Bear River Health Department talks about Sexual Health especially when it comes to permission & consent for children.
Teaching Kids About Consent: Helping Your Child Understand Boundaries
As parents, one of the most important lessons we can teach our children is that their bodies belong to them. Helping kids understand that they have the right to say “no” to unwanted touch is a crucial part of promoting healthy boundaries and self-respect. Having open, age-appropriate conversations about bodily autonomy and consent can help children develop confidence and the ability to advocate for themselves.
Why Teaching Kids About Consent is Important
Consent isn’t just about relationships later in life—it starts in childhood. When kids understand that they have control over their own bodies, they are more likely to develop self-esteem and recognize when boundaries are being crossed. Teaching them that saying “no” is okay can also protect them from potential harm and give them the tools to speak up in uncomfortable situations.
How to Talk to Your Child About Consent
Here are some ways to help your child understand that their feelings and boundaries matter:
- Teach Body Autonomy Early: Let your child know that their body belongs to them and that they have the right to decide how they are touched.
- Encourage Open Communication: Create a safe space where your child feels comfortable talking about their feelings. Let them know they can always come to you with questions or concerns.
- Model Respect for Boundaries: Show your child what it looks like to respect others’ boundaries by asking permission before hugging them and respecting their answer.
- Use Clear and Simple Language: Phrases like “You don’t have to give hugs if you don’t want to” or “If someone makes you uncomfortable, it’s okay to say no” can help reinforce the message.
- Help Them Practice: Role-playing different scenarios can give your child the confidence to say no when necessary.
- Support Their Decisions: If your child chooses not to hug a relative or doesn’t want to participate in certain physical activities, respect their choice and back them up.
Reinforcing the Message
Teaching consent isn’t a one-time conversation—it’s an ongoing discussion that evolves as your child grows. By consistently reinforcing the idea that their choices matter, you empower your child to set and maintain healthy boundaries throughout their life.
At Bear River Health Department, we support parents in having important conversations about health, safety, and well-being. If you have questions or need resources on discussing consent and boundaries with your child, we are here to help.
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